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When people say you're glowing in Trimester 1, it's the sheen of sweat that is reflecting light off your nauseated forehead. The good news is that for some of us, including me, this sweat does actually become a glow in Trimester 2 once you stop feeling sick all the time and are instead flushed with the 40%-50% extra blood circulating around your body, making you feel overheated, and putting you at risk of varicose veins, high blood pressure and other fun, potential pregnancy symptoms.

My early pregnancy symptoms in brief:

  1. Sore boobs - a constant dull ache and they keep on growing
  2. Sleep deprivation - I used to sleep like a log but no more
  3. Frequent peeing - including at night, which added to lack of sleep
  4. Fatigue - the most tired I've ever been in my life. Pulling all-nighters and 6-day camping music festivals have nothing on pregnancy fatigue
  5. Gas - constantly bloated and gassy. Farting myself awake was a fun, new experience
  6. Nausea - constantly needed plain carbs to settle my belly
  7. Pimples - a smattering of hormonal pimples along my chin line
  8. Sciatica in both legs - this is why they recommend sleeping with a pillow between your knees to alleviate pressure on the hips during pregnancy. Learned the hard way. D'oh.

I only vomited twice and that was before I knew I was pregnant. The first time I threw up was during a Diablo 4 gaming session. I don't normally get tension headaches but Boyfriend Pham does so we assumed I'd just been tense at the computer for too long. The second time I threw up was the night I found out from the GP via an email that we were pregnant. I went out to dinner for Girls Night, ate pho, had indigestion all night then finally threw up in the morning and took the next day off work.

This is what I craved early on:

  1. Breakfast - must have cereal as soon as I get up to combat nausea
  2. Oranges - 3kg bag nearly every week
  3. Bananas
  4. Kiwi - out of season so that was an expensive phase
  5. Strawberries
  6. Vegemite on toast
  7. Eggs and toast
  8. Plain crackers
  9. Crackers and cheese
  10. Hot chips
  11. Cheese and butter sandwiches, later I craved pickles and cheese sandwiches
  12. Vinegar - on salads mostly, but sometimes I'd drink a mouthful
  13. Could not stomach red meat for 2+ months

Of the girls night crew, I had the worst Trimester 1 experience. In hindsight, I think it was the gestational diabetes / pre-diabetes because my pregnancy cravings were all high GI, mega blood glucose spiking foods like plain cheese sandwiches with butter and white bread, or plain hot chips soaked in tomato sauce. Fatty foods made me feel sick, flavoursome foods like curries made me feel sick. I somehow managed to not throw up, though, even when I thought I might. I was mega nauseous and plain carbs seemed to be the only thing to settle my stomach. But then I'd feel tired and exhausted after food and need a nap.


Our fertility and pregnancy experience

  1. Fertility is a F-word
  2. IVF hormone injections and symptoms
  3. IVF egg collection
  4. The wait for embryo news
  5. Accidentally, intentionally pregnant
  6. Early pregnancy scans & tests
  7. Early pregnancy symptoms & cravings
  8. Pregnancy and the Glucose Tolerance Test (GTT)
  9. Gestational diabetes rant (For baby!)
  10. Diet-controlled gestational diabetes
  11. When is baby due?
  12. Gender reveals
  13. Hiding early pregnancy
  14. Pregnancy glow (Trimester 2)
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Our 2cm bean at 8 weeks.

For someone trying to get pregnant for a number of years, I sure was oblivious to what pregnancy actually entails. I knew that you did an at-home pregnancy test and then should get a blood test to verify any positive results. And then...?

I went to my regular general practitioner doctor (GP). He is very considerate and attentive when diagnosing general health problems but he is not an antenatal specialist so wasn't across the nuances of early pregnancy. I've since come across a checklist that would have been handy for both of us to know and work through together.

I am in Queensland, Australia and at my first public hospital midwife appointment, I was given a printed version of the Pregnancy Health Record and told to take it to every medical appointment from now on. Pages 12 to 13 are a handy breakdown of what you'll be chatting to healthcare professionals about during the different weeks of pregnancy. https://clinicalexcellence.qld.gov.au/sites/default/files/docs/clinical-pathways/pregnancy-health-record.pdf

A summary of my pregnancy scans and tests up to Week 20 (the halfway mark!):

  1. Blood test to verify pregnancy.

  2. Blood test to check immunities and potential risks if not immune.

  3. Scan 1: Early pregnancy scan to check embryo growth. My GP recommended week 8-10 to also get bub's heart rate. 

  4. Scan 2: The "Week 12 Scan" is a Nucheal Transparency (NT) to check the fetus' growth.

    This one is a biggy because your baby has developed vital body parts and functions and the remainder of your pregnancy is further developing what's been established. The risk of miscarriage dramatically drops if your baby has all its bits and bobs in order.

    Before your scan, you need to do a PAPP-A blood test 4-5 days in advance so the radiology team can get a copy of the blood results before your scan.

    Optional NIPT genetic screening blood test that is not covered by Medicare. Cost ranges from $500-$700 from the few pathology companies I looked up in Queensland. NIPT blood test needs to be done up to 7 days in advance as it's a specialist test and may take longer to process. I opted to pay for the NIPT for peace of mind but to also learn the baby's sex (finding out the gender is an opt-in tick box on the request form, you don't have to find out if you don't want to).

  5. Hospital referral from your GP - You need to decide whether you're going public or private and nominate your preferred hospital.

  6. Hospital care options - You need to choose a maternity care option. I was offered shared care with my GP and hospital midwives, midwives only, or specialist care. I went with midwives only since I was a fairly low-risk pregnancy. That, and my GP seemed glad to refer me away from his care because I had questions he sometimes couldn't answer. I later got bumped up to Specialist Care with a little more involvement from the hospital's obstetrics team. More on that another time.

  7. Scan 3: The Week 20 Scan is the last major milestone for the first half of pregnancy.

    The scan checks baby's growth and takes measurements and images of the baby. You can also learn the baby's sex at this scan if you didn't learn earlier. If baby is healthy and mumma is healthy then I'm told women are mostly left to their own devices until the Week 26-28 glucose tolerance test (GTT). Then don't continue growth checks until Week 32+ onwards.

Me? Unfortunately, I got diagnosed with gestational diabetes in Week 17. I did my GTT early because being part Chinese put me in the high-risk category. I will write about gestational diabetes another time though, because it adds a whole new dimension to my pregnancy experience.


My left ovary that gave us two frozen embryos and our miracle 'natural' pregnancy embryo.

Our fertility and pregnancy experience

  1. Fertility is a F-word
  2. IVF hormone injections and symptoms
  3. IVF egg collection
  4. The wait for embryo news
  5. Accidentally, intentionally pregnant
  6. Early pregnancy scans & tests
  7. Early pregnancy symptoms & cravings
  8. Pregnancy and the Glucose Tolerance Test (GTT)
  9. Gestational diabetes rant (For baby!)
  10. Diet-controlled gestational diabetes
  11. When is baby due?
  12. Gender reveals
  13. Hiding early pregnancy
  14. Pregnancy glow (Trimester 2)
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Let's take a break from my IVF and pregnancy experience to talk about stupid home automation. We have lights and hub from the Phillips Hue range on a tech friend's recommendation. The Phillips Hue Bridge connects to and controls the Phillips smart bulbs - there are more advanced options with motion sensors, but we wanted to start with the basics.

I love the idea of home automation in theory. The reality is, that you probably need programming skills to set up actually smart home automation. The current settings and rule options in our "smart" lights remind me of clunky eCommerce store sales rules logic where a programmer built what they could and not what they should, limiting the options to end users like me.

We wanted to set up smart lights that would:

  1. Turn on at sunset each day. Tick.
  2. Fade and turn off by a certain time of night. Took 5 routines to set this fading effect up, but - tick.
  3. Turn on when one of us comes home after dark. No tick.

I didn't think it'd be impossible to set the lights to only turn on when it's dark / after a certain time but apparently, it is. The option was to turn on the lights regardless of the time of day whenever one of us arrived home, or nothing at all. Our house is bright and we don't use lights during the day so we opted for nothing at all. Otherwise, we'd end up turning the lights off multiple times a day instead of turning the lights on occasionally when we arrive home after the fade and turnoff routines have run at night.

Hopefully, the software will improve over time. For now, we've settled with having dumb smart lights with limited usage and Boyfriend Pham just yells at Google to turn the lights on. I'm waiting for maternity leave to remove work apps from my personal phone so I can enable Google Assistant voice activation - currently, they're disabled for work security reasons and I'm too lazy to carry around two mobile devices so I sacrifice my right to Google voice. Dumb, smart me.




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We decided to freeze our 2 viable embryos rather than do an immediate embryo transfer because I was so bloated from the IVF medications in March. Then in April, I had food poisoning, head colds and aching ovaries; it was just not a good time to schedule an embryo transfer because I wanted to be in good health to improve our chances of success. Even though I've heard from women who fell pregnant while they were sick as a dawg.

We let April come and go. My cycle was warped from all the IVF hormones and my usual 28-day menstrual cycle was a whopping 39 days. We decided my next cycle would be our first attempt at an embryo transfer. I had progesterone meds stocked up in the fridge - it is used to thicken your uterus lining to increase chances of the embryo embedding successfully, and got my medication plan from the fertility clinic in anticipation. But then my 28-day cycle came and went. Then my new 39-day cycle came and went. I had spot bleeding the weekend V came to visit and that usually means my period will start a few days later. But it didn't.


Then one Girls Night, Little Sissy Pham suggested I take a pregnancy test. She'd given me the tests she had from when she got pregnant with Nephew Pham. That Saturday morning I peed on the stick and was shocked to see the little plus symbol. Part of me couldn't believe it so I read the instruction box and saw that IVF medications can mess with results. I went downstairs to tell Boyfriend Pham. We were both surprised and happy, but unsure. I wish I'd researched it further before I told him that IVF meds can cause a false positive, which dampened our celebration somewhat. But IVF hormones stay in your system for approx. 10 days. It had been over a month since I was on those meds so we were very likely pregnant and could have been less reserved in our happiness!

Anyway, I went to the GP and asked for a blood test to confirm. One evening while taking the train home together I read an email from my doctor. He'd circled something on my blood test results and had scrawled, 'CONGRATS!' And that's how we learned we were definitely pregnant at 7.5 weeks. The doctor was surprised I hadn't tested sooner, but honestly, I was so focused on the embryo transfer, and in denial because we'd been trying for years without success - why would I be lucky enough to get pregnant now?

I am so blessed that we got pregnant 'naturally.' I put that in quotes because I am convinced the IVF hormones helped our cause. The only other life change was Boyfriend Pham left a toxic work environment for a very supportive new workplace. Maybe it was a combination of both - my body needed the fertility hormone boosts and Boyfriend Pham needed less stress. Whatever it was, I am so very grateful for our miracle embryo. My spot bleeding from a couple weeks back had been the embryo embedding into my uterus lining.

Next up: Pregnancy scans, tests and holding my breath between key milestones, willing my little embryo to stay healthy and keep growing.

Our fertility and pregnancy experience

  1. Fertility is a F-word
  2. IVF hormone injections and symptoms
  3. IVF egg collection
  4. The wait for embryo news
  5. Accidentally, intentionally pregnant
  6. Early pregnancy scans & tests
  7. Early pregnancy symptoms & cravings
  8. Pregnancy and the Glucose Tolerance Test (GTT)
  9. Gestational diabetes rant (For baby!)
  10. Diet-controlled gestational diabetes
  11. When is baby due?
  12. Gender reveals
  13. Hiding early pregnancy
  14. Pregnancy glow (Trimester 2)
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