When people find out I'm pregnant, there are one of two questions they will ask first:

1. When is baby due?
2. Do you know what you're having?
   
   

Do you know what you're having?
I know I'm having a human baby that has all its limbs, heart chambers, two kidneys and lungs. I hope it's a healthy baby that has all its senses and brain functions, but I won't know for weeks after I meet them on the outside of my belly.

As for Baby's sex, Boyfriend Pham and I aren't precious about it, which is good because the way we learned our baby's sex was unconventional. My GP doctor, bless him, is not a pre-natal specialist. He didn't even know the process for Non-invasive prenatal testing (NIPT); I educated him on this blood test since the company I work for offers them. With NIPTs, you have an optional tickbox to request the lab check the DNA for gender. I thought I'd learn baby's sex with Boyfriend Pham when we went for results. Not so. In reality, I learned Baby Pham's gender while Boyfriend Pham was in Melbourne visiting friends. My doctor texted me a photo of his computer screen with my NIPT results with the message "Mother of a boy--- C-O-N-G-R-A-T-S."

I had just woken up from a nap on Friday night after work. I was sad Boyfriend Pham didn't get to learn at the same time as me. I called him straight away and interrupted his game of Dungeons & Dragons to see if he wanted to know the baby's sex. He said, "Oh - okay...? Yeah." So I told him and he shared it with his friends who cheered in the background. They were shocked that you can casually find out your baby's gender on a Friday night. 

I had enough trouble keeping my pregnancy a secret from the work crew during the first trimester, I couldn't be bothered keeping more secrets after I could finally talk about it so the closest I got to a gender reveal 'event' was getting the work crew to guess what I was having.

I hosted a team quiz where I revealed I was pregnant and got the team to guess whether I was having a Barbie or a Ken. As much I adore Ryan Gosling's Ken, our baby will look more like a Simu Liu Ken since neither Boyfriend Pham or I are blonde and blue-eyed.

Our fertility and pregnancy experience